What to call a guy you are dating
If he really wants her, he has to invest more time in her…in romance…in emotional connection.
So is it impossible to transform a casual guy into a steady boyfriend?
If you don’t bother bonding with him or getting to know him, you’re telling him that only the sex interests you.
Once again, if all you did was flirt and have sex, then the answer is probably NO. You bond when you talk about things close to your heart, when you share memories and opinions.
In the “afterglow” stage you may experience very lovey-dovey feelings…and the oxytocin drug rush is indeed powerful. Sorry to be crude but I do think it’s important for a woman to understand the risk of the FWB relationship. And you may be left heartbroken and confused, when you find out he’s met someone else that he really likes.
By sleeping with a guy too soon, you are basically telling him, “Who you are doesn’t really matter to me…I just want the pretty face.” It’s hard to imagine a man being interested in a woman after that kind of dynamic is exchanged.
And though you may not come out and actually say those words, that’s what he feels.
Who would I be most interested in for the long-term? It is theoretically possible that a guy could fall in love with in a casual relationship – but in order for that to happen, you would have to talk about deep emotional experiences, the things you have in common, the things that he wants in life.